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It is really just a matter of how we look at him. Imam Magid holds more intimate singles gatherings, participants gather in groups and talk about the Quran and characteristics of husband and wives. Hayat, an Eritrean-American mother from Washington, D. He was always the one who came to pick me up, and always the one who paid.

When you love someone, you are willing to overlook their faults and shortcomings, and excuse them. Instead, I continued to pursue him. When my husband started courting me, I never called him until we were engaged. Another troubling point brought up by Muslims across the diaspora was the desperation angle. Many religious leaders do take an active role in arranging events and suggesting matches to their community members.

Often with no family or support system, many turn to the imam to act as their wali but, in reality, a majority of the time, the imam does not know them. It is our own choice to focus on the negative, or the positive attributes. Many of us have dealt with prison, abuse, and need to be deprogrammed.

The evolving identity of Muslims in this country further contributes to the marriage crisis. Meeting venues and forums are few and this seems to be one major deterrent to suitable marriages. The issues are as diverse as the American Muslim community scattered all over the country. Increased physical mobility is a hurdle too. Had I been raised with the knowledge that the woman must be courted, it would have stopped right then.

He lives at home and supports his parents. Adherence to cultural norms and expectations, generational disparity and the neglect of the Islamic standard for the choice of partners are also hurdles single American Muslims face.

Everyone says we have a problem in our Muslim community when it comes to marriage, but no one is willing to fix it. Why should we compromise before the marriage. Others are confined to their own masajid and circles. Colorism and racism are very common experiences faced by a large number of people trying to get married.

Nevermind the fact that husbands A-E all have different faults from one another, none of which we would want to put up with any more than the faults of our own spouse. Al Rahmah Marriage Bureau uses the Muslim Volunteer Matchmakers team, matchmakers that spend these hours on your behalf. It's just wrong, no matter how bad they are.